Re-Learning Life Lesson #1: You Can Control People You Love…

Re-learning Life: Lesson #1

What I Learned: “You can control the people you love, by holding money or possessions over their head”…My Life Experience: I’m fairly certain that, I was raised to believe those who provide for you by sheltering, clothing, and feeding you; are also completely in control of every thought and action you take throughout the rest of your life. Like somehow they bought your soul… and because you wouldn’t have anything, if they took everything they’ve ever given you away. You’re their indentured servant for life. I understand having respect for your caretakers from childhood… I get the magnitude of everything they’ve done for me. But, letting them control me throughout adulthood by attempting to use money and possessions is patronizing. They act as though I must now be a puppet of their will, or I am insubordinate and ungrateful… sorry folks, not me. Take your house and everything else (Yes, a free and clear home; I told you what they did for me was of great magnitude). I’ll survive, I’m sure of that. I’ll just grow more bitter towards you, as you grow closer to a lonely unsatisfying end. It’s sad that you wouldn’t want to find a way for us to become peers in life, now that I’ve become a man, instead of treating me like a child forever. I’ll take my chances with what you’ve taught me, and if I fail, I’ll take responsibility. I will know it’s because I failed. Not because you taught me the wrong values and lessons. It’s amazing when you start looking back at your life, and factor in the experiences you’ve heard and witnessed from other peoples lives. That’s when you realize, my god… My childhood wasn’t normal, it’s not the way it happens for everyone, “I might be seriously messed up in the head”. That’s why I’m writing myself a… text book. I’ve begun “re-teaching” myself, all the lessons of life. Hopefully I get what I was suppose to learn, right this time.

Wish me Luck!

What I should Have Learned: You can’t control the people you love by holding money or possessions over their head to make them do or be whatever you want. Eventually, they will rebel and you’ll lose them forever. Instead, try to communicate clearly what you want in a respectful way. That will allow them to make a choice about what you’ve asked. It turns out that, people who care about you, will make the choice to do or be what you ask, when given the opportunity to choose it… hunh, weird…